Podcasts, videos, and iPad art
Chapters
00:11:50 – Learning from Eric Thomas on “The Ed Mylett Show”
00:18:10 – Learning from Ep. 100 of “Short Story Long”
00:37:40 – If you could give 2 seconds of advice…
Links
ED MYLETT SHOW: Eric Thomas – The Hip-Hop Preacher:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FjI2P5Bgd-A
Short Story Long #100:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N_4oKBnjuRM
https://www.instagram.com/p/Bi5xmTagVuc/
You’re reading this sentence. Done. A couple seconds is all the time that you get.
For what?
Someone’s walking across the stage. You hand them a diploma. You shake their hand. And now you say something that they can take with them as they finish college and enter the real world.
You have a couple seconds.
What would you say?
This is the scenario that Chris ‘Drama’ Pfaff gave to his guests on the (very special) 100th episode of his podcast (YouTube, iTunes), Short Story Long. Three of his favorite guests (Keven Stirdivant, Tom Bilyeu, and Rob Dyrdek) come back on to have a discussion together.
Through 100 episode, Drama’s become great at interviewing people. He steers the conversation really well to create two solid hours of wisdom.
I’m sure I’ll write a few more posts about this episode but the first thing I wanted to write about was their answers to this question.
My question is this: In the spirit of college graduation, if you could have two seconds with a kid who just walked off the stage at his college graduation, and tell him anything, what would you tell that person?
Keven Stirdivant: “Stick to your gift”
One thing that I really enjoyed here is that Keven starts with “stick to your craft” but makes it more specific and says “stick to your gift”.
He doesn’t say passion.
And he explains that he can be as passionate about basketball as anyone on the planet and it won’t get him to the NBA. You have something in your life that comes easier to you than it does for other people. Whether you believe it’s god’s gift or that you were raised in the environment doesn’t really matter: you have something that you excel at.
If you pursue that, you’ll have a career that will allow you to pursue your passion on the side.
Idan Ravin was passionate about basketball. Best player on his his school squad.
“I’m not going to pursue another career, I’m passionate about basketball and I’m going to play in college and then the NBA and it’s that way or the highway.”
Guess who said that? Not him.
Didn’t get to play a minute in college. Studied law and was good enough to be a working attorney. He still stayed passionate about basketball. He started coaching at lower levels and fast forward a few years and he’s in an Adidas commercial training Carmelo Anthony.
(It’s not exactly an overnight path to go from lawyer to doing private training sessions with Carmelo and LeBron. Check out my video about his book, The Hoops Whisperer, for more.)
Tom Bilyeau: “What you build your self-esteem around matters”
Alfred, I have this CEO job at Wayne Enterprises but it’s not really making me happy, what should I do?
“Endure.” – Alfred, if he’s like your parents
Tom tells a story about a job that sounds like a job everyone has at some point. If you’re a new college grad, you might be stepping right off the stage and into one of these kinds of jobs.
You have a job that pays the bills and has a path up the ladder, but it doesn’t make you happy. There are different levels of this. The lower levels can be bearable for an entire career.
At a certain level, you need to stop and consider leaving.
Tom looked at his situation. There were two options:
He went with the third option that many people would miss: “Change what I feel good about myself for.”
Rob Dyrdek: “I’m a big believer in Tony Robbins’s theory on this one. That’s the idea of the earlier you figure out what you want to master, the better.”
Clarity, clarity, clarity. That’s a huge theme in this episode.
It can take a lot of time to find clarity. (For instance, some people never find it in their lives.) But it’s worth the time you put into it.
When you know what you want to master, then you’re able to get through the day to day. With clarity, you’ll be able to plan well and know what you need to focus on at every level.
If you want to succeed, there are going to be challenges. You might want to quit. But if you can align what you’re doing to a clear vision, then you’ll be able to—like Alfred would suggest—endure.
With that clear vision, you can skip some dead ends. Yes, there are lessons in challenges. But it’s a better use of time skipping some challenges to get to the harder ones. (Don’t worry, the world will never run out of challenges to give you.)
All of that is from like 10 minutes of the episode
It’s 150 minutes and packed with insights like that. Go check it out: Short Story Long episode #100 (YouTube, iTunes)
Now I’m gonna go listen to some podcasts so that I can continue pursuing my gift: saying “I heard this on a podcast…”
I automated this a long time ago.And then I never used it. I have this thing where I tend to jump into creating a workflow for something a little too early. I think it’s something I’ll do a bunch of times and then I end up not using it all that often.
Here are some examples:
I’m using that last one right now. And… I think it’s going to work pretty well. I forgot I had it at all but looking at it I’m remembering that it took a good amount of trial and error to get it to work.
It might even handle this image properly. (Update: it didn’t!)
I made these things that I don’t end up using. And that’s okay.
There are plenty of other things that I automated or made a little bit easier that I actually do use daily or at least weekly. I learned things through these other unused automations that allow me to make the ones that I use.
There’s value in that. And there’s value in keeping the mindset of looking for ways to make things that much easier.
Fixing a broken window here and there, leaving the campsite a little cleaner than when you arrived—it all adds up.
Why does a single sentence matter?
That’s about all the time you’ve got to explain something.
One sentence for this post: Dave Chang says you need to be able to explain your restaurant quickly and it reminded me of something from Ryan Holiday’s book “Perennial Seller”
I’ll start with the Dave Chang part. In the first few episodes (The Pre-opening Diaries) of his new podcast (iTunes, Stitcher), Dave Chang talks about Majordomo in conversations with Bill Simmons. They were recorded a few months ago so it was before Majordomo opened and actually even before Ugly Delicious came out on Netflix.
Oh yeah, the particular bit about having a sentence is in the first episode. (It starts at 14:52)
Bill: Do you feel like the food has to be… the customer can describe it in a sentence? Or the customer will just tell a friend “The food’s great just go there.” Does it have to have a brand I guess is my point.
Dave: Yes. I can expand upon this much more. It’s important that you can explain what you’re doing in a sentence. Or two sentences, tops.
“I’m opening up a steakhouse.” That’s clear.
(In “Creative Quest”, Questlove writes about the importance of deciding what you’re not. I wrote about it here. Dave Chang does not want Majordomo described as “It’s a Korean restaurant.”)
In Perennial Seller, Ryan Holiday writes about making creative work with longevity. He also suggests being able to explain it in a sentence. (Then a paragraph and then a page.)
When you’re starting out, it helps you re-align. You can’t move toward a vision if it’s not clear. One sentence is clear.
Then, when you release it, you can check the results against your initial intent. From Perennial Seller:
The most important part of the process is comparing the results of the exercise against the product we’ve made. Does your one-pager really describe what makes your screenplay worth producing? Would your one sentence capture an investor’s attention in an elevator?
In Dave Chang’s case, the investor is instead that friend you’re trying to pick dinner with. If you can’t describe it in a sentence, how will other people describe it to their friends?
So what would a good sentence be for Dave Chang? From The Dave Chang Show (starts at 16:30):
“I think the best way when someone says ‘Hey, what kind of food are you serving?’ or your friend and goes to you and says ‘Let’s go out to dinner Thursday night, where do you want to go?’ Let’s say ‘We want to go to Majordomo’ they’re like ‘What do they serve?’ it’s like, ‘It’s hard to describe, but you want to go. It’s awesome. I don’t know how to talk about it. It’s awesome.'”
If you’re opening your first restaurant, your first sentence should be as clear as “it’s a steakhouse”. If you’re writing your first novel and expect it to be published and sold, have a genre in mind. Genres become that because a collection of people decided they like some particular collection of things.
If you’ve had success with that, then go ahead and start breaking the rules. Be bold, but understand the challenge. From Perennial Seller:
But you need to know that this will likely make your job harder— and you’ll need to compensate for it in various ways during the creative process, in your packaging and positioning, and certainly in your marketing.
Dave Chang has the career capital to aim for “I don’t know but it’s awesome.” He knows he can deliver on the “it’s awesome” part. He’s done it before. Sometimes he’s failed trying to repeat it. He’s learned from those failures.
He’s sharing his thoughts on all that (and plenty more) on The Dave Chang Show.
Go check that out. I’m gonna go work on my one sentence.
(“Active Recall is sort of like those good podcasts attached to a good blog but instead replace ‘good’ with ‘A for effort’ and then mix in a little…”)
You’re in the zone. You’re dominating. There’s even a photographer here to take a photo of your performance. He’s getting pretty close.
Okay his camera just exploded in your face. Not great.
Have you ever felt distracted? Of course you have. Then you’ve also wanted to feel less distracted.
David Allen’s Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity has something for you. It’s comprehensive for handling items in every horizon of your life. Even if you don’t start using the entire system, you’ll find something valuable that you can apply pretty much right away.
Let’s oversimplify your mind really quick. Let’s say you’ve got 100% of your attention available. You can put that attention in two categories: focus or distraction. At any moment, you can only have one thing to focus on, but an infinite number of things to distract you.
You can practice shifting the intensity of focus. Things like meditation help. But it takes practice.
Instead, weaken the distraction. Get rid of some. Take their intensity away. From Getting Things Done:
It is possible. There is a way to get a grip on it all, stay relaxed, and get meaningful things done with minimal effort, across the whole spectrum of your life and work. You can experience what the martial artists call a “mind like water” and top athletes refer to as the “zone,” within the complex world in which you’re engaged. In fact, you have probably already been in this state from time to time.
You might call it Hulking up.
Who knows what else was on Hulk Hogan’s mind that day. Maybe he was thinking about the groceries he’d have to pick up after the match. Maybe he was reminiscing about the 80s. Maybe he was thinking about his future in Hollywood.
Start with the easy things. From Getting Things Done:
If the next action can be done in two minutes or less, do it when you first pick the item up.
…
The rationale for the two-minute rule is that it’s more or less the point where it starts taking longer to store and track an item than to deal with it the first time it’s in your hands—in other words, it’s the efficiency cutoff. If the thing’s not important enough to be done, _throw it away_.
Here’s a tip for some quick momentum: Clean a drawer or do the dishes. It will never take up so much time that you regret doing it.
Build the habit of getting small wins in.
Then you can move on to the hard things? Wait, what are the hard things?
The strongest distractions are things worth focusing on, just not right at this moment.
It’s also probably a bigger thing that needs to be broken down into smaller parts. So how do you handle that? Ask a key question: What’s the next action?
From Getting Things Done:
What’s the Next Action? This is the critical question for anything you’ve captured; if you answer it appropriately, you’ll have the key substantive thing to organize. The “next action” is the next physical, visible activity that needs to be engaged in, in order to move
The more you practice this, the better you’ll be at figuring out the next action for any project. If you schedule it and trust your calendar, you’ll be able to take it off your mind.
A little less in your head to distract you. A little more focus.
You’ll be able to get things done.
Summing up:
You’ve been practicing your leg drop for months. But today just isn’t going well. You’re getting dominated. It’s not looking good. But you took care of everything else so you can focus on the task at hand.
You duck.
Wax on. Wax off. Leg drop time.
Tim Ferriss often asks his guests this question:
What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months (or in recent memory)?
Okay so I’m not one of his guests, and it’s not $100 or less, but if I were one of his guests I’d say “It’s not $100 or less… but the GORUCK GR1 has been my favorite purchase of the past year. I use it every day.”
Note: GORUCK links on this post are affiliate links. (I really do use the backpack every day!)
A few months before buying a GR1, I decided I needed a backpack. I also decided not to buy a GR1. Instead, I got The North Face’s Big Shot. I loved it when it was on my back. Really comfortable. But there were a few too many things that irritated me when it wasn’t on my back.
It was top heavy so it didn’t sit up right. I had to lean it against a wall forward so the straps hang out if I lean it in the hallway. I also had to hold it up when I was packing it.
There might cheaper bags that would fill my needs, but I couldn’t find one.
Looks-wise, the GR1 is clean. It doesn’t even have the GORUCK logo anywhere on its exterior. The bag is the brand. While reading about the bag, I learned the phrase tacticool—almost always used disparagingly. Most bags with the same functionality of the GR1 end up a little too far in tacticool territory.
It stands vertically on its own. This might not be important at all for you. It probably wouldn’t be important for me if I didn’t use it as a gym bag. It can stand up in the locker room while I pack and unpack it.
It opens like a suitcase. Even more helpful if I’m just unpacking the entire thing. This helps a lot at the grocery store. Again, this also might not be an important use case for you. But just know that if you’re looking for the intersection of gym bag and grocery bag, it’s going to make you so happy.
It has the right amount of pockets (for me). All of this is subjective, of course. But this might be the most subjective thing. I’ve read often that people find it doesn’t have enough different compartments.A common answer I’ve seen is that you use attachments and things to customize it. I didn’t do that. I find the three pockets enough.
I’ve had backpacks with a bunch of different pockets. It’s great for that first day of school feeling where you’ve got a place for everything and everything in its place.
By day 4, everything is out of place. I don’t want to have too many places to look for things.
One thing I miss is having a water bottle slot on the outside.
Oh yeah, the laptop compartment.
GORUCK offers a different backpack that’s $100 cheaper which swaps the laptop compartment in the back for an embroidered logo in the front.
I considered getting that, figuring the weighted plate slot on the inside of the backpack could hold a laptop. It actually does hold a laptop pretty well (sometimes I carry a work and personal laptop with me) but it’s harder to pull out on the go.
Like they say on the site, if you’ll be carrying a laptop regularly, get the GORUCK GR1.
